"Sh**t, I am like my mother/father"

A heartfelt reflection on how we become what we resist—and how to shift focus, heal emotional patterns, and grow into the person we truly want to be.

You know those moments when you say, “I will never be like my mum,” or “I don’t want to turn out like my dad,” and then… years pass… and boom—you catch yourself doing/saying exactly the same thing they used to do? And you freeze. You shake your head. “How did this happen?”

Let’s be honest: it’s not because you’ve failed. It’s because energy flows where the focus goes.

So why do we end up becoming what we didn’t want to be?

Because all along, our mind was focused on the don’t.

“I don’t want to be impatient like her.”
“I don’t want to shout like him.”
“I don’t want to ignore my child’s emotions like they did.”

And guess what? That "don’t" didn’t protect us. It directed us. It became the center of our attention. Our focus is so strong that we attract that "Don't" and we become. Yes, that is the secret of that process.

Where the Focus goes, the Energy Flows

So what if we flipped it?

What if, instead of focusing on the version "I don't Want Be....", we began to focus on " Who I want to Be."
So now, you have a task to do: Grab a piece of paper. Yes, writing time helps a lot. Write at the top, big and bold:

“WHO I WANT TO BE”

Then write it. Pour your heart onto that paper.

Write down all the ideas and desires you want to become. To help you imagine yourself and just desire what you admire about her/him.

Put your picture next to it. Look at your own eyes. That’s the soul who is ready for this shift.

Now, place that paper somewhere visible—on your mirror, on the fridge, on your wardrobe—anywhere your eyes can catch it—and your heart can see it and feel it.

Because: Where focus goes—energy flows.

You’ve already seen how powerful your mind is. You’ve seen it shape your patterns, even when you were focused on what you didn’t want. Now imagine what happens when you focus on what you do want. Who you truly are inside.

You are not your past. You are not the stories passed down.
You are a unique, beautiful soul choosing your path with awareness. And that, my friend, is everything.

Ready to Find Real You?

I offer online energy healing sessions and tailored Bach Remedies consultations to help you find the REAL you.

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With all my warmth and belief in you,

Agnes,

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